What people are judging me on. No, it's not my disability.

When I started taking pictures of myself and posting them on Instagram (which really, it's barely been over month) I braced myself for the negative feedback I would inevitably get from some people. Yes, ignorant and ugly people, but nonetheless Instagram users with the right to express their opinion.

Now, I know that it hasn't been long enough to fully and correctly assess how the general populous is reacting to my photos, but overall it's been quite good. Except for,... the comments about my boobs and lack of overall "bra" presence. And this has thoroughly surprised me.

I thought most women hated wearing bras? And I really do mean "most" because I know that some women love wearing their bras, and that's fantastic! But calling me "disgusting" for choosing not to wear one? Of ALL the things you could say about me... my wheelchair, my overall appearance,... you pick my nipples? It's so strange!

Yes, these comments are coming from mostly young girls in their teens who are probably very insecure about their own bodies and breasts; Young girls who probably haven't had enough time on this earth to learn about themselves and the role they want to play on this crazy place we call earth.

And I know (or at least I THOUGHT I knew) how heavily the media influences our minds, both young and old, but holy crap!
If you are more shocked at the fact that I'm not wearing a bra, instead of the fact that I'm a 35 year old in a wheelchair posing in front of a camera for Instagram, then we are way ahead in some areas and so far behind in others.

Can we please stop teaching young girls AND boys that women's breasts (and nipples) are something dirty, strictly sexual and unnatural?

As for me, I will continue to wear a bra whenever the eff I feel like it.

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